PARENTING IN THE NEW MILLENNIUM PODCAST

Supercharge your parenting by tuning into something different, that makes a difference! (Coming in August)

Find out what EVERY parent MUST KNOW for parenting in the new millennium. You’ll receive information that touches your heart, exposes your strength and bridges the relationship between you and your children. I’ll discuss topics that cover ALL dimensions of a human being (physical, mental and spiritual). Why? Because it requires the use of all three of these working together, to navigate and regulate life at its highest.

Gain back time, energy, and joy…while your kids learn to master their ability to: 

• Regulate their own emotions, moods and behaviors – for the better!
• Dissolve pain, stress, anxiety, tantrums and power struggles…on their own.
• Cultivate joy, stability, motivation, …and the ability to thrive!

It’s time to raise the frequencies in da house! Tune in…and turn up your parenting vibe by clicking here. 

 

Adopting A Teen Perspective On Life and Living

Adults can learn a great deal from teens. During the adolescent years, teens often observe in us (adults) everything that they don’t want to be. And, quite often their observations are exceptionally on target. The looking glass by which teens and adolescents view the world is often lost on the rigid lenses of the adult mind and visions of the world.

Welcome to parenting in the new millennium! As the world is ascending and human consciousness is awakening from its longtime slumber, we’re faced with the dilemma of how to operate in this rapidly evolving over-stimulating world, which at the same time, is beckoning us to realize our true human potential, spiritual nature and gifts. What’s becoming obvious is “how” and in “what” condition we’re surviving and navigating these changes. Are we thriving and falling in love with life?  Or, are we just surviving it?  We should accept and create nothing less than the former. Yet we’ve been trained to the latter – telling ourselves that disease and struggle are normal….and that we just have to survive it all. We owe it to ourselves and our kids to make the shift.

The Divine creative intelligence of nature is unfathomable and awe-inspiring. Have you ever explored the science of biomimicry? Big word, but stick with me for a moment. This is where science tries to duplicate the perfection and intelligence of nature’s design to create inventions or engineered solutions bases upon what they learn from nature’s brilliance. For example, humans still cannot create a substance that is as strong, small and flexible as the threads of a spider web. If it were to be magnified into the size of a quarter inch cable, the strength would be inconceivably greater than even our greatest technologies.

Why do I bring this up? Well, humans have been gifted (from Nature, Source, the Divine or whatever you prefer to call the Universal Intelligence that flows through all things) with immense gifts that are unparalleled to anything anyone could possibly reproduce. These attributes are packaged right inside each of us – awaiting our activation and awareness that they even exist. What’s thee technology of technologies? Creation. We are creative beings living in physical bodies. Now I don’t mean the run-of-the-mill creativity like Johnny is really good at building blocks (although I’m not knocking those exercises because they are extremely important in realizing ones creative potential). I’m talking about big picture creation – taking something from a virtual idea in the mind to manifesting it into a physical reality in our lives.

Do we truly understand what it means to create – to make something from nothing? For starters, it doesn’t come from nothing –  it comes from a thought.

Have you ever contemplated how powerful your thoughts actually are? The field of science has. And scientists have been very busy studying and measuring the energetic vibrations of thought and how the energy from mental thought coalesces, changes and assembles sub atomic particles of light and molecules to form matter. For anyone that remembers their chemistry class, we know that molecules make matter, and matter is what our physical realities are comprised of.  Some of the most prestigious universities in the world are studying the affects of focused thought (or meditation and prayer, as some like to call it) and the power it has to actually change human physiology and physical matter. That’s right! They’ve illustrated how a cell will actually change, heal etc. based upon the energetic vibration and quality of a specific thought or intention launched at it. Further scientists are even measuring the affects of how someone else’s thoughts can heal the cells in another person’s body!

For the churchgoers or spiritual minded folks, this may not come as a big surprise. However, my question to the masses is – then why aren’t we using OUR internal mental technology to our advantage to bring forth great healing in our own lives, humanity and the world.  We possess great potential, but are we fully accessing and using this amazing intelligence that resides within each of us to the fullest?

There are other powerful creations beyond the physical manifestations that we make, which include the intangible creations of our minds, thoughts and emotions. Have you ever noticed how powerful it is to transform hate, dislike or fear into love, acceptance, understanding and peace?  Have you ever felt the exhilarating freedom, inner peace and health that come as a result of performing such a feet?  These intangible creations unequivocally may be the most powerful creations of all!  For anyone who has had a long time nemesis (which you transformed into a friend) you know what I’m talking about. As if by magic, old discords clear up or are forgotten… and then resentment turns into cooperation and peace. Turning fear and hate into love and compassion is spiritual alchemy or creation at its best! It’s life altering ~ and our physical health and world around us becomes a reflection of our new and improved inner thought forms. In other words, the intangible becomes tangible!

When you recognize and become consciously aware of our amazing human design, one can’t help but be intrigued or motivated to access and use all of our internal equipment and capabilities to transform our thoughts to their highest good and to “create” a better life experience for our children, ourselves and the world.

Like anything, it takes training – or perhaps re-training. And it occurs by intentionally focusing and redirecting ourselves – one thought, one moment, one experience at a time.

 

Although my life is now filled with purpose, success and direction, this wasn’t always the case. From the moments of my first memories, life in Watts and South-central Los Angeles was riddled with strife, struggles and bore witness to the worst of human experiences imaginable to a young child.  Like most wandering souls, I sought ill-guided ways to connect and relieve the pain. It was these misaligned connections that landed me into the world of gangs, drug trafficking… and ultimately prison.

Hard to believe, but my greatest grace was being sent to prison–not in the sense that the prison system did anything useful to reform me, but rather I was left with nothing but the solitude of facing myself and all my demons. I spent many years climbing my way back up to myself–to the real me…the true self that can only be found from deep within.

I’ve been asked, “What would have changed the course of your ill-fated experiences, or the fate of any other child experiencing the destructive side of human influences?”  My answer always remains the same…“inner fortification.” This fortification starts with the family and ideally should bleed into a supportive community that develops the sacredness of life and our human potential.

It doesn’t matter whether someone experiences big or small traumatic events. I’ve found that the pathway to get through them is all the same – they only vary in degree. The process begins by having an awareness of yourself, who you really are and what you’re really capable of, and bearing witness to the good within you and others. You see, you aren’t your badness, but youare your goodness.  We all have it within us and there’s no discrimination for who or access to it.

The second is having a greater understanding of our human composition and abilities. I wasn’t taught anything about my “human technologies” as Gretchen Downey of Mind Body Spirit Parenting explains it.  Information about the technologies we have inside of ourselves to navigate life on higher levels has been kept from many of our education and religious systems.

We must fully recognize that all of us are simultaneously both physical and spiritual beings. When I was in the darkest places of my life, I realized I had obscured and buried the most important aspects of who I am as a human being – my spiritual self and all of its wonderful and amazing expressions and power.

This realization helped me shift and shape the course of my life forever. I’ve seen what the effects of discrimination and ignorance can do to hurt families, disconnect children, teens, and plunder our communities into destruction. Through the ashes of these experiences, we can fertilize the world around us with positive action, messages and connectivity.

We must not waste a moment to teach kids how to use their inherent abilities to navigate life. Equipping them with the knowledge necessary to show them how to regulate their mind, body emotions, etc., will fortify our kids, communities and the world in immeasurable ways!

If a guy who came from violence, gangs and prison can do it…anybody can.

Why and when did we ever stop learning to play and dance like a child? Undoubtedly one of the single largest mistakes adults can make in their lifetime is to stop playing. It brings our personal evolution, brilliance, creativity and resilience to a screeching, and in some cases a life long halt. You see, the biological intelligence of play is designed specifically to benefit the human brain, mind and intelligence. By Nature’s brilliant design, parents are given a second chance at reconnecting to the whimsical and beneficial properties of carefree play through our children.  Have you ever really whole-heartedly noticed how a child will find great joy, fascination and connection with even the smallest things?  Watch how they lovingly and appreciatively play with dirt, sand or whatever rubble they stumble upon. Recently I witness something that nearly broke my heart. A small child was playing down by the shoreline of the beach. As he danced, skipped and sang around his little self-made mound of sand, it was clear that this child was in complete alignment with his creative “happy place”. In between his giggles and dancing, he would stop to collect more sand and seaweed to adorn his structure and to hang lavishly around himself. Suddenly mom took notice of child after her lengthy distractions of texting and chatting. Then, her voice ripped through the air and through the child like a machete laced with poison as she screamed, “Put that down! Don’t EVER touch that nasty stuff again!” In that instant, the child’s face and emotions went from pure bliss and self-empowerment to intense shame, sadness, powerlessness, guilt and disappointment.  As I watched the child crying and filled with shame and confusion, I couldn’t’t help asking myself, “I wonder how many times this child’s beautiful works have been completely destroyed and humiliated?” And all because he got a little dirty with the ocean’s plant life? In the child’s mind and current reality the sand and rubble were gold and diamonds. And most beautiful of all, this child chose to sing and dance about it with all his heart and soul. He was creating a beautiful reality for himself with simple supplies from nature. When we degrade or disconnect with the intrinsic value and human need for play, we’re doing more harm than we can possibly imagine. Its counter intuitive to the way a human joyfully learns and exercises the development of their Divine creative powers – and to the way our brain works and functions best. If we devalue or punish children for their play they can start losing trust in themselves and life. Our misaligned perception is completely opposite with how the child is feeling inside about the meaning, importance and joy of their creative work. Indisputably science knows that the “play centers” are amongst the most powerful areas of the human brain. It’s by no mistake that the Universe designed us to be hardwired for play, music, love and dance and other high vibrational energies. These activities light up highest regions of the brain, which stimulate our highest creative human potential! Next time you have a similar experience, remind yourself to view the situation through the eyes of your child.  And maybe, just maybe, you’ll see the gold in the sand, the jewels in the seaweed…and imagine that its magic. And perhaps …you’ll even remember how to sing and dance about it.